Let The Cheating
You cannot find a cheating liar who
is not living in suppressed fear of being found out. Lying helps the cheater to
remain concealed when questions arise over his behaviour. Naturally a cheater
would say anything (other than the truth, of course) to escape blame and shame.
So, cheating is often packaged in lies.
As soon as the first lie is told,
other lies follow in succession, as occasion demands, to support the old.
There are two important things to
note about lying.
- Lying involves the ability to concoct
and weave together a believable story in a moment. A typical liar should have sound memory and smooth
is an acknowledgement that there is value in his marriage. The liar dreads
being caught because of the consequences of discovery – one of which is the
likely break-up of his marriage.
What are those things a cheating
liar is afraid of? In other words, why doesn’t he admit his cheating and
save everybody the stress.
- Fear of Repercussion. A liar would lie because he fears that his
admission of cheating will be used to his detriment. This is not a misplaced
fear as most confessions of cheating end up in public domain and the cheater is
condemned by all. Moreover, in divorce cases, proved infidelity is a hammer on
of Hurting His Spouse.
This may not make sense to many women considering that the cheating on its own
is enough upset to the wife. Truly, ignorance is
bliss here; discovery is devastation. Often a woman who wants to ‘hear it all’
may suffer excessive shock at the revelation.
By The Behaviour. A cheating liar knows that his behaviour is immoral and unacceptable
by society. That is why the cheating act is done most discreetly, where or when
he may not be recognized or exposed.
best setting for getting the truth is to deemphasize the fears enumerated
earlier. Do this by whatever means and over a good period. Allow plenty time
because it removes the effect of pressure on him. Pressure and formality will
induce those fears and raise resistance.
To Get Best Results:
Ask your questions within a natural,
Do no emphasize or insist on every
answer or details of it
Do not roll out all your questions
at a sitting even if there seem to be willingness to answer all
If an answer is not given, avoided
or snubbed, note it for another day
Cheaters are always a step ahead of
suspicion and may actually smell investigation before you commence. So, he will
attempt subtle series of deception to make your suspicion seem unfair and
A cheating liar may be good at
deception but they do not always hold out for long. Under a proper,
patient observation, something shows up along the way to reveal the truth.