Plan To Get Your Husband Back
to get your husband back shows you realize that mistakes were made that broke
up your home. It also means that those mistakes are not insurmountable and you
are prepared to make necessary changes to win him over.
examine the issues that can push husband and wife to the brink and may lead to
interference and domination
challenges and demands
or political views and beliefs
or disability (physical or mental)
divorce may result from one or more combination of those.
The Main Challenge
barrier as you move to get your husband back is in his commitment to
another relationship on leaving you.
If you are
divorced and he has remarried, it will be a herculean task. Your move towards
him now is extramarital affair which is frowned upon by society. On the other
hand, if you are separated (or even divorced) but he is not married to another,
he is game and ‘retakable’.
Steps To Getting Your Husband Back
- Re-establish, regular, hearty,
to meet him at irregular intervals. Or find ways to bump into him anywhere(workplace,
shopping mall, gas station, restaurant etc.) Ensure not to embarrass him if he
- Show practical interest and concern
in his passions. You have lived with him and should know what thrills him!
- Remember your anniversaries – wedding
dates, birthdays and other milestones. Use them as best meeting opportunities.
Arrange special get-together.
- Use his close friends and relatives
to get your husband back. Be careful that these people did not work
against your marriage initially and cause your current predicament.
- If you have children, send them over
to him regularly or arrange for him to visit them. Either way children are very
powerful instruments in getting parents together again.
- Can you help out in any other way or
manner? Say, pay some bill, or visit him (his mum, sister) in hospital?
- Be patient if your plans are not
moving fast. If he is deeply hurt by issues in your marriage or into a serious
relationship, it may take longer for things to work out.
When Meeting Him
him lead ‘proceedings’. Pay rapt attention; only speaking when necessary.
blames for any past mistakes, failures or shortcomings. There is something that
could have been done, undone, overlooked or endured to keep the marriage.
him know you wished your separation didn’t happen and it’s the worst experience
of your life.
him know you still love and want him back at whatever condition he may give.
Don’t put pressure on him to commit
Signs That Your Efforts Are Working
he calls or returns your call
he accepts part of the blame for the break-up
he confesses missing you or being unhappy since leaving (hurrah!)
If he shows any remote hint of these, you are about to get your husband back!
So let the second chance roll!