The jealous husband is proof that love is alive and kicking in a marriage. If there is no iota of jealousy in the marriage then the love is suspect.
Many women delight in the show of mild jealousy by their husbands. It’s an exhilarating feeling of being desired by who matters most in your life. This is healthy and most women wish and look forward to it.
Jealousy could be in the genes or learned from parents’ or mentors’ attitudes. It could also be induced by experience of loss of some precious possession. It is a subtle fear that drives one to be protective over his treasure to stop others from taking over.
Therefore a jealous husband would strive to take exceptional care of his wife, providing all things that would make her comfortable. His biggest challenge and distress comes if he is incapable of meeting her needs in any way.
As said, jealousy is evidence of love but how come it can also destroy? It causes undue suspicion or faithlessness of the wife. This may lead to trailing, surveillance, setting traps and unfair accusations. In many cases it has led to arguments, fights, deaths and break-ups.
These are certainly not ways of projecting love.
A deeply jealous man is one lacking in self-confidence and trust of the spouse to remain faithful. The dominant thought is that she is easily ‘capturable’ by other better men.
A husband is predisposed to intense jealousy:
The wife of a jealous husband must live above board so as not to give credence to his suspicions and accusations.
Don't we all feel 'this thing' when our spouse makes a fuss over an admirer - imaginary or real?
When and where is the limit of this behaviour?
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