Help! The Marriage Is Not Working
week, a prominent author was quoted to have said, ‘a marriage is not working if
a couple had to work on it’.
he meant that a good and successful marriage ought to flow on its own since the
couple love each other. Of course marriage should be made of so much love (love
being critical ingredient for a successful marriage), but that love is work.
where many young people miss it. They take the initial romantic allure too
seriously and assume that the union will glide through to success without
challenges. So when the tests and trials come up it’s easy to think that the
marriage is not working.
How To Set Up Your Marriage For Resounding
What I think is that if every marriage, emerging or
existing, will build some not-so-pleasant ‘what-ifs’
into their going-forward expectations, we might start to see longer lasting,
shock proof but happy marriages.
It’s irritating to see marriages fall apart on the
first appearance of a challenge that may be common in other marriages or has
been overcome by countless others. Yet people that fail in these marriages
tenaciously hold on and survive harsher career upheavals in their vocations.
difference is in attitude.
understand that every marriage will be challenged, tried and tested then you
can resolve to overcome in advance even as you cannot foretell the nature and
timing of the challenges that may come. This is an indispensable mindset for a successful
7 Energizers For The Marriage That Is
Are Not The Same. This is an obvious truth as circumstances and people
differ. How one spouse relate or express love and affection to his mate may not
be same method as the next couple. Every woman should receive their spouse style of affection and encourage him to
do more of the same instead of
requiring him to do exactly like their neighbors.
Marriage Is What You Call It. If you say your marriage
is not working, it could be a self fulfilling prophecy and get you there faster
than you imagined. But is that what you really want? Why don’t you call the
trials of today what it really is – a passing phase.
- When Silence Is
Golden. In marriage
it’s not every misstep of your spouse that is worth your comment or
criticism. You can afford to ignore or pretend not to notice some of the
potential trouble starters, and make mental excuses on behalf of your
- Two Wrongs Make
When you are mistreated, you don’t have to pay back. There is no winner in
that silly game. Moreover, when you hit back it makes everyone (including
- Place your spouse
above your kids. Just the two of you were here at the beginning, isn’t? Let first
things remain first. Make your kids understand that you value each other a
little bit more than them. They will respect that and imbibe it in their
own lives too. More so, when the children leave home, it will not be so
hard to live alone with your spouse once again.
You Sick And Tired Of Marriage? Sometimes you get so fed up with the whole
thing that you wonder how you got into this thing
with him! Well, you are not alone. Many successful marriages felt exactly the
same way at some points in their union. Do you know what they did? You guessed
right! They kicked out the thoughts, marched on…and won. Divorce is not a good
place to arrive. Everything about you, your children and extended family could
be messed up by that seven letter word – divorce.
Play Down Sex. It is difficult to break the bond generated by
regular satisfying sex. Every other challenge vanishes where good sex is
regular in the marriage. When sex becomes a boring it will soon be avoided;
then every knock is a potential knockout!
Don’t leave these nuggets to gather dust, put them to
good use. So when you are tempted to think that your marriage is not working,
you will rather decide to work the marriage for success.
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